Admit Failure
Financial fraudster Bernie Madoff said of his fund this way: “At first things were going well, then not so good, and then it was a shame to tell.” And then the situation worsened so much that he stood trial.
A mistake turns into a failure, and it turns into a complete failure if we allow this to happen. Be honest with yourself and admit a mistake, even if you are afraid to fall in the eyes of other people. Yes, you will no longer seem to them as smart and flawless as before, but you can stop the fall and prevent the slip from turning into a catastrophe. Honesty is the first step to starting learning from your mistakes.
Ask for help
When you are in a difficult situation, contact people who can help you. But remember what you need and help in return. It's like a conversation: if only one person speaks, the second starts to get bored. So provide response services as soon as possible.
In my first company, I needed to attract customers, in the second - to find money, in the third - to make a website, in the fourth I needed help again. Even five people help me write articles - and I try to support them too when I can.
Surround yourself with the right people
The way out of a difficult situation is 95% dependent on what kind of people are near you. Once I had to work with unreliable partners. I hoped that the situation would improve over time, but this did not happen. And I had to break the contract with them.
It is very difficult to evaluate your surroundings. Make a list of people with whom you work and communicate, and then ask yourself: when I think about them, how do I feel - good or bad? Listen carefully to your feelings. Perhaps you have known some of them for a long time and the whole history of your relationship is a continuous struggle. Stay away from unpleasant people, because the worse you feel, the worse your life will end up.
Be realistic
It is important to understand that in reality, not everything goes according to plan. For example, in the first seventeen years of her career, writer Theresa Regan wrote at least twenty books, and all of them were rejected by publishers. Then she decided to publish the book herself, and she became a bestseller. But Teresa was a realist: she understood that she had talent and that publishers did not believe in her. Having appreciated all the risks, the writer managed to break through and succeed in an extremely difficult field, doing what she truly loves.
Once I launched the site myself, but it was not popular. I made a difficult decision and closed it. And then he launched a new one, to which millions of users came.
Deal with defeat
Sometimes people come to me and say: "I have to pay a lot of money." In fact, they are in the balance of dismissal. It doesn’t matter what you do: no one is obligated to show respect, which only you consider deserved.
Ian Kuma was not hired by Facebook, although he was an upscale programmer. Then he created WhatsApp, and then sold the same Facebook for 19 billion. But he did not shout “hell, they must hire me, they must respect me!”
Be thankful for what you have - do not demand more. After all, it was your actions that led to the situation in which you are. Use communications, ideas, skills and achieve your goals with humility.
Learn from mistakes
Once I had a chance to chat with one of my favorite comedic actresses - Marina Franklin. I asked how long it took to develop talent. She replied: eleven years. She recorded all her performances and then looked through the recordings to understand what was wrong.
You need to carefully study your own failures and think about what could be done better. Only an analysis of your mistakes in work or relationships can make a difference.
Do not be sad
Failure is just a definition that our brains give. Exactly the same as "success." And over time, their meaning changes. Once, on the eve of Thanksgiving, all the troubles fell on me at once: the girl left, got fired from work and kicked out of the apartment. Then I ate a turkey sandwich and placed it on an advertisement on the site on behalf of a psychic. The mood got better.
Any way to calm down helps to survive failure. It’s better to forgive people who have abused you and think that life is a very short thing. Do not spend too much time on sadness.
Financial fraudster Bernie Madoff said of his fund this way: “At first things were going well, then not so good, and then it was a shame to tell.” And then the situation worsened so much that he stood trial.
A mistake turns into a failure, and it turns into a complete failure if we allow this to happen. Be honest with yourself and admit a mistake, even if you are afraid to fall in the eyes of other people. Yes, you will no longer seem to them as smart and flawless as before, but you can stop the fall and prevent the slip from turning into a catastrophe. Honesty is the first step to starting learning from your mistakes.
Ask for help
When you are in a difficult situation, contact people who can help you. But remember what you need and help in return. It's like a conversation: if only one person speaks, the second starts to get bored. So provide response services as soon as possible.
In my first company, I needed to attract customers, in the second - to find money, in the third - to make a website, in the fourth I needed help again. Even five people help me write articles - and I try to support them too when I can.
Surround yourself with the right people
The way out of a difficult situation is 95% dependent on what kind of people are near you. Once I had to work with unreliable partners. I hoped that the situation would improve over time, but this did not happen. And I had to break the contract with them.
It is very difficult to evaluate your surroundings. Make a list of people with whom you work and communicate, and then ask yourself: when I think about them, how do I feel - good or bad? Listen carefully to your feelings. Perhaps you have known some of them for a long time and the whole history of your relationship is a continuous struggle. Stay away from unpleasant people, because the worse you feel, the worse your life will end up.
Be realistic
It is important to understand that in reality, not everything goes according to plan. For example, in the first seventeen years of her career, writer Theresa Regan wrote at least twenty books, and all of them were rejected by publishers. Then she decided to publish the book herself, and she became a bestseller. But Teresa was a realist: she understood that she had talent and that publishers did not believe in her. Having appreciated all the risks, the writer managed to break through and succeed in an extremely difficult field, doing what she truly loves.
Once I launched the site myself, but it was not popular. I made a difficult decision and closed it. And then he launched a new one, to which millions of users came.
Deal with defeat
Sometimes people come to me and say: "I have to pay a lot of money." In fact, they are in the balance of dismissal. It doesn’t matter what you do: no one is obligated to show respect, which only you consider deserved.
Ian Kuma was not hired by Facebook, although he was an upscale programmer. Then he created WhatsApp, and then sold the same Facebook for 19 billion. But he did not shout “hell, they must hire me, they must respect me!”
Be thankful for what you have - do not demand more. After all, it was your actions that led to the situation in which you are. Use communications, ideas, skills and achieve your goals with humility.
Learn from mistakes
Once I had a chance to chat with one of my favorite comedic actresses - Marina Franklin. I asked how long it took to develop talent. She replied: eleven years. She recorded all her performances and then looked through the recordings to understand what was wrong.
You need to carefully study your own failures and think about what could be done better. Only an analysis of your mistakes in work or relationships can make a difference.
Do not be sad
Failure is just a definition that our brains give. Exactly the same as "success." And over time, their meaning changes. Once, on the eve of Thanksgiving, all the troubles fell on me at once: the girl left, got fired from work and kicked out of the apartment. Then I ate a turkey sandwich and placed it on an advertisement on the site on behalf of a psychic. The mood got better.
Any way to calm down helps to survive failure. It’s better to forgive people who have abused you and think that life is a very short thing. Do not spend too much time on sadness.
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